Friends flirt without realizing it, and at times, all it takes is a tiny butterfly effect to change the flirty banter into something a lot more sexual.
The booty call should be made on the same day you plan on getting with her. The first option is to call right before you want to meet her. The second option is to call ahead of time to schedule the meeting for a later time.
To use the second option you need to have a good idea of what her usual schedule is like and the best time and way of reaching her, whether through cell or home line, so you don’t get the answer machine. However, it’s always best to use the first option, calling right before meeting.
But what is a booty call?
Most people get to enjoy the pleasures of lusty lovemaking when they get into a relationship.
But what about the others, the horny and lonely beings that still want sexual pleasure without the baggage of romance and relationships?
Well, that’s where the booty call enters the picture.
A booty call is a call you make to an acquaintance or a friend with the sole intention of having sex with them.
It’s a perfect arrangement between two mature adults who are sexually attracted to each other, but don’t want to share a romantic relationship with each other.
As long as you find the perfect friend with benefits and follow the rules, both of you could sexually exploit each other and still stay friends, without the risk of experiencing heartbreaks anytime soon.
How to find the booty call pal
If the idea of sleeping with a sexy someone with no strings attached excites you, well, all you need to do is find the right person, and subtly seduce them into desiring you sexually.
If you meet someone on a one night stand, it just makes things a lot easier if they want to keep in touch. But if you’re looking to get a friend interested in a booty call, you need to plan your way into their loins.
Firstly, you need to remember this. A booty call is an insult, at least in the realm of the society’s conscience. It is taboo, and no one you ask will ever jump with excitement like you just went down on one knee and proposed marriage. Always be subtle in your approach while hooking up a friends-with-benefits relationship.
Pick the person you’re sexually attracted to, and work your way into their pants, one step at a time. You need to warm them up, build the sexual tension, and finally make the infamous call.
Warming the booty call over phone
Is this a good friend of yours? Good friends and BFFs are usually best avoided for booty calls. If things don’t turn out right, you may end up losing a good friend over a few awesome but mindless minutes of sex.
Always approach someone you don’t spend too much time with, preferably an old crush from school, someone you meet at the gym, or a sexy someone you meet at a cafĂ© now and then. And then, warm their booty up!
Tip: When you call, depending on when you call and when you want to meet her, ask if she is doing anything right now, tonight, or later on. If it’s the first call, talk for about 5 minutes before asking. If it’s not the first call, keep the talk under 3 minutes.
1. Get them interested. Cozy up with this friend of yours when you meet them or speak to them over the phone. It’s alright if they assume you’re trying to woo them, at least for the first couple of calls. After all, sending out subtle hints that you’re interested in them is the best way to pave the way for sexual encounters.
2 Talk about your sexless lovelife. Once you get closer and more flirty with each other, nag about how annoyed you are because you haven’t hooked up with anyone in such a long time.
3 Confess your booty wish. Over a call late at night, tell your friend how you’re looking for someone for a no-strings attached relationship. Go as far as asking your friend to hook you up with one of their friends. Laugh it off, but let the message stay in their mind that you want someone to have sex with.
4 Your last booty call. Confess about your last booty call and tell this friend how sexy it was. Make up a story if you have had no booty call experiences, and make sure the story has a happy ending.
5 Get your friend thinking. Find excuses to get your friend to think of you naked. Tell your friend you just walked out of the shower, or that you were just giving yourself a trim down there. As long as you get your friend to imagine you naked, it’ll be pretty hard for them to get your naked body out of their mind.
6 Play dirty games. This is the best way to build up the sexual tension that could lead to a sexy booty call. Ask each other dirty questions over text, and you’d be on the verge of becoming sex buddies in no time. [Read: sexy text message examples to start a sexy conversation]
These 7 steps are best used over the phone or while texting because it’s easier to pretend like you’re joking if your friend takes offence. Speaking dirty in person would be awkward and risky unless your friend is just as sexually desperate as you are.
Warming the booty call face-to-face
Once you’ve warmed your date up over the phone, the air would be crackling with sexual chemistry each time both of you meet. Use these tips to get those hormones raging all the more harder.
1 Touch a lot. When both of you are together, find every excuse to graze each other’s body parts often, be it while pointing at something, while crossing the street or while kissing each other goodbye.
2 Sexual flirting. Flirt in a very obvious manner and let your friend know you’re sexually interested in them. You don’t need to say anything about a booty call just yet. Just make your friend desire you sexually just as much as you desire them.
Make the booty call
There are two ways to make the booty call for the first time. You can use either ways as soon as you’re confident that there’s enough sexual tension in the air.
1 The booty call phone call. The first booty call takes a while to warm up to the idea. On one evening when you know your friend is idle, call them up and flirt with them a while. And at some point in the conversation, ask your friend what they think about the booty call. If you’ve made all the right moves, the call should lead straight to bed.
Tip: The next thing you should ask her is if you can come over to her place. For example, "Let me come over <right now/tonight/later on>"2 The booty call date. This method is safer, because you can go with the signs and back off or push ahead based on the circumstances. Invite your friend over to your place to watch a movie together. And while watching the movie, make sure some parts of your bodies touch each other. Over the next two hours, the subtle grazing of arms or feet while sitting next to each other would excite both of you.
And somewhere along the way, cozy up closer and ask your friend what they think of the booty call. If the chemistry sizzles, both of you would be on top of each other within the next few seconds!
Set the ground rules after the first booty call
Don’t set ground rules before hooking up at least once unless both of you have shown interest in the booty call idea for a long time. Once you’ve had sex at least twice, it becomes easier to set the ground rules because both of you like the sex. If it’s a one off incident and your friend doesn’t want to do it again, perhaps they’re not in it for the sex.
It’s very easy for one of you to fall in love, so make it clear that if one of you starts to develop feelings for the other, it’s time to back away. Add any rules that you think both of you may need to ensure that this sexual relationship stays that way without any complications.
Avoid falling in love with each other
The irony of a sexy booty call is the big chance that one of you will fall in love with the other. So unless you want to experience a broken romance that’s built on sex, avoid falling in love. Avoid all things that could make the booty call feel like romance.
1 Jealousy. Don’t get jealous if your friend is booty calling someone else. If your friend starts to date someone else, walk away for good.
2 Don’t call each other. Call each other if there’s a good reason to call, but avoid calling each other to pass the time. If you’re having sex, both of you already share something very personal. Don’t bring intimacy into the picture or one of you will fall in love.
3 Don’t give gifts or lend ears. Stop behaving like both of you need to support each other or please each other every now and then. By doing that, you’d end up needing each other for support very soon.
The best friends for booty call
A booty call is easy to fantasize about, but it’s not at all easy to pull off. It works best with people who can differentiate sex from love and intimacy. So before you go picking your next booty call pal, make sure you pick the right friend. Here are a few good friends and acquaintances to use for a booty call.
1 The just-want-sex friend. This is the friend who is single, but isn’t interested in dating someone because they’ve got other commitments that need their attention.
2 The rebound friend. Has a friend recently broken up? Are they now looking for someone to get into a rebound relationship with? This friend would be perfect. But then again, don’t ever seduce someone who doesn’t want to be seduced or is looking for something serious. You’d end up feeling disgusted about yourself.
3 The sexual chemistry friend. Both of you share a lot of sexual chemistry and catch each other stealing glances all the time, but don’t want to date each other.
4 The ex-lover friend. Do you have an ex lover from several years ago, where the love has just sort of faded away into neverland? If both of you are single and want sexual intimacy without the risk of heartbreak, perhaps falling into each other’s bed is the perfect way to fill the empty sexual space in each other’s lives. But remember, this is delicate and tricky ground. Don’t fall back in love!
A booty call is a secret
A booty call can be a reputation ruiner, so don’t go bragging about it to the world. If you want the fun and the games to continue for a long time, try to keep it a secret from everyone in the world, including your closest friends.
Respect each other, and give each other the space to be with other people. This is a no-questions-asked relationship, and both of you have no right to talk about the other person with anyone else.
Walk out when the booty call hurts
There are four ways a booty call can end. And trust me, it will end. One of you could fall in love with the other person. Both of you could fall in love with each other. The booty call could start to get boring for one of you. And finally, you could get hurt because you can’t separate the sex from emotions, be it jealousy, anger or hate.
If it ends smoothly one fine day, that’s good for both of you. Just avoid getting attached to this person and everything would go just perfectly. If your booty call pal starts avoiding you or starts making excuses to avoid meeting you, get the hint and brace yourself for the end of the affair. Learn to accept rejection gracefully, because there is no happy way to end this kind of a relationship anyway.
Look for someone else to booty call with, but just don’t go begging your old booty pal to take you back into bed. Really, you’re not in love here, are you?
Common excuses you might encounter:
* She is tired -- this excuse borders between one she can get around and one she can’t. You’ll have to play this one by ear and listen to her tone of voice. If she doesn’t sound tired, it’s a safe bet to pressure her a bit more with the, "I just want to see you for a little bit" line.
* She is going out that night -- tell her you’ll come by after she gets back, even if she won’t be back until late at night. After all, that’s how the booty call got its reputation.
* She has to do some work (whether for school or her job) -- say something similar to what you would if she says she’s going out, say you’ll come by right after she’s finished.
* She simply says she’s busy or has to do something -- ask her what she has to do, if it’s an excuse she can get around, just say you’ll come by after she’s finished with whatever she’s doing or has to do.
If she keeps giving excuses for why she doesn’t want to meet, then she probably isn’t interested in you and/or she doesn’t feel like having sex at the moment.
Keep in mind that some women are reluctant to saying yes right away, especially if it’s the first booty call, but if you work for it just a little, they usually cave in to their desires.
Once a woman has experienced the relaxation that comes from no strings attached sex after building up the tension throughout the day, she’ll be constantly craving sex without emotional baggage or pre-sex courting and her booty will definitely be giving you calls when it’s ’in need’.
Should you have a booty call?
Let’s face it, booty calls aren’t for everyone. It’s extremely hard to separate love from sex, especially when they both feel the same at the start of a relationship. Sometimes, lust could overpower you and cloud your judgment which could eventually hurt you.
So if you want to take a plunge into booty call land, go for it. It’s an experience worth having if you’re looking for casual sex. But if you think you’d fall in love or suffer from jealousy, walk away because a booty call isn’t for you!
Remember: Once a woman has experienced the relaxation that comes from no strings attached sex after building up the tension throughout the day, she’ll be constantly craving sex without emotional baggage or pre-sex courting and her booty will definitely be giving you calls when it’s ’in need’.
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