How to Read Mixed Signals and Turn It into Love

Mixed signals from a guy or girl can be confusing and frustrating. Learn these tips on how to read mixed signals and make that person fall for you. By Morgan Miller

Falling in love with someone is a happy feeling.
But not when the one you like is blowing hot and cold with you.
Are you getting mixed signals from a guy or girl you like?
At times, mixed signals can be very frustrating.
But that’s only when you feel like you can’t understand what’s happening.
If you can predict the patterns of mixed signals while attracting someone, you’ll realize that a flirty game of mixed signals can be a lot of fun.
And when things do turn in your favor, your relationship would definitely sizzle with fiery passion.

What are mixed signals?
For the uninitiated, have you ever felt like someone likes you, but then you’re confused again?
If you feel like this special someone has affections for you at one time, and then see that they completely ignore you at another time, you’re probably experiencing a classic case of mixed signals in love.
The most basic idea you need to remember about mixed signals is that it’s mutual.
If you feel like there’s something going on, the person you like should feel the same way too. When both of you have secret interactions through eyes or subtle gestures at times and then completely ignore each other at other times, you’re building up a flirty game of mixed signals. [Read: 10 flirting signs between a guy and a girl]
How to read mixed signals
Mixed signals aren’t hard to read. In fact, they’re really simple. But a flirty game of mixed signals is more insecure and unsteady than regular courtship. So if you want to enjoy the mixed signals you’re getting, don’t rush in looking for answers. Take your time, and enjoy the game.

1. Play along. This is the first step in trying to end the game of mixed signals in your favor. Do you feel like someone’s trying to glance at you now and then, but then they completely avoid looking at you some other time? Or does the one you like flirt with you like they’re already in love with you, and then talk to you like just another friend the next morning?
Don’t pull your hair out thinking about it. Relax. You know something’s up. Just enjoy the game and look for opportune moments to get flirty again.

2. Challenge the game now and then. So you’ve been playing at the mercy of this person until now. You flirt when they flirt. You behave like a friend when they behave like a friend. Don’t be bound by their rules of the mixed signals game. Try to take control of it.
The next time this person tries to flirt with you or tries making eye contact, ignore them. By doing that, you’re letting this person know that you’re not a puppet and you can play the game too. This person may ignore you for a day or two, but they’ll start sending out mixed signals before the end of the week. By switching the control of the game now and then, you’ll make this person you like try to win your affection too and you won’t be the one with a crush anyone.

3. Don’t burst out. As frustrating as mixed signals can be, don’t ever burst out or confront the one you like. They may be sending mixed signals, but you have no idea if this person actually likes you. By bursting out or forcing an answer out of this person, you’ll end up losing any chance of ever getting into a relationship with them. Just have fun and enjoy the flirty games.

4. Are you misreading the signs? As fun as the games could be, you need to ask yourself if you’re misreading the signs. What if this person you like is not sending any mixed signals at all? What if you’re just making all the assumptions?
Don’t let emotions cloud your mind. If a girl smiles at a guy or talks sweetly with him, the guy may assume she’s sexually interested in him. On the other hand, if a guy talks sweetly with a girl, the girl may assume he wants to get into a relationship with her. Make sure you’re reading the signs properly or you may end up looking foolish.

5. Don’t fall for this person just yet. You may like this person already, but don’t fall head over heels in love just yet. The exchanging of mixed signals could just be a silly game to pass the time. You don’t know if this person likes you for sure. So until then, play along and have fun.

6. Mixed signals are sexual. Mixed signals are mostly sexual, which means you need to create memories that would excite their sexual sides. Sometimes, they behave like they’re attracted to you and sometimes, they don’t. Use that in your favor. Learn to get closer or create memories when they’re warming up to you.
You could touch this person discreetly while walking past each other or you could sit really close to each other. Do anything as long as you give out the sexual vibe when you’re around this person.

7. Learn from it. There are times when this person likes you a lot and other times when they don’t like you back. Why do you think they’re blowing hot and cold? Are they dating someone else? Are they having second thoughts about dating you?
Mixed signals are a confusion. But people don’t give out mixed signals just to play around. They give out mixed signals when they’re not sure about whether they want to date you or not. Whenever you’re with each other, try to charm this person and make them like you more. Perhaps, by making this person like you better, you could eventually date this person.

8. Don’t tell anyone else about it. Mixed signals are like secret games. You really shouldn’t tell anyone else about it, least of all, that person’s friends. If anyone else talks about it, you’ll end up bringing it out into the open. And when that happens, the person you like has to decide at once whether they want to date you or not. And when someone’s giving you mixed signals, they’re probably going to walk away from you.

At the same time, spreading the word that this person’s playing games with you may annoy the person who’s playing games with you. And you may just end up embarrassing yourself if no one believes you.

9. Take a decision. Once you’ve started charming this person, hope for the best. Try to turn the mixed signals into romance if you want, or just have fun, or forget all about it. There may be too many reasons behind why you’re getting mixed signals from this person no matter what you do to impress them.
They may already be dating someone else or may be interested in someone else at the same time, they probably don’t think you’re good enough to date, their friends don’t approve of you, and who knows what other reasons there may be.
If this person you like starts warming up to you and stops giving out mixed signals, good for you. On the other hand, if it’s not working out in your favor, forget about it instead of breaking your head over it. Chances are, once you forget all about it, this person will want your attention and may start trailing you again!

10. The final confrontation. When you confront the one who’s giving you mixed signals, it almost always never ends well. They could just deny it and there’s not a thing you can do. But if this person’s been playing games with you for a long time and you can’t take it anymore, perhaps it’s time for confrontation.
Confront this person only if the mixed signals get overly obvious or if it’s affecting your mind and your sanity. But if you can deal with it, just walk away and start ignoring this person if they don’t reciprocate your feelings.

Reading mixed signals is never easy, and the only way to do it is to be patient and wait for the signs. So if you’re wondering if that good looker’s giving you mixed signals, use these 10 steps to make the secret flirting end in love.

Top 10: Signs She's Flirting With You

When a woman is flirting with a guy, she's trying to get him to notice her and giving him an opportunity to make the first move. The problem with this female strategy is that a lot of guys are completely oblivious to it and, consequently, throw away a lot of chances to hook up. The following are 10 of the most obvious signals women emit when they want you.

Keep in mind, however, that lots of women are open and friendly to everyone, so spotting just one of these signs might not necessarily be enough to determine her interest. But if a lot of these signals are coming your way, it's a pretty safe bet that you could score a date.


1. She smiles at you
When a woman has an interest in you, her smile can hold your attention from across a crowded room and it is definitely one of the major signs she's flirting. Good looking woman have to work everyday to fend off guys they don’t like, so if she is smiling at you from across the room, this means that she wants you to talk to her. Engage in her flirting by returning the smile.

2. She plays with her hair
If she is attracted to you, she may twirl her hair in her fingers or let it cascade in front of one eye, use her fingers to brush her hair away from her face or lift her hair off the back of her neck as if she is hot while looking at you. If you say hello and she’s performing any of these behaviors, well, all signals say: Keep chatting.

3. She makes direct eye contact with you
One of the most obvious signs a woman flirting with you is when she continuously looks right at you and maintains prolonged eye contact. If the eye contact is for longer than normal duration and she scans you up and down, keeping her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks, she’s already made up her mind that she likes what she sees.

4. She isolates herself from her friends
Women know that men might find it difficult to talk with them while they're in a group, so if she distances herself from her wall of friends and stands alone, looking at or gazing at you, then it is a sign that she is providing an avenue for you to initiate a conversation.

5. She attempts to catch your attention
 If a woman glances and smiles at you while walking by you and in the process takes a longer route to get to the restroom, then it may be that she wants you to notice her. By walking past you repeatedly, out of her way, she’s giving you a sense that she wants your attention.

6. She enters your body space
When a woman enters your personal space, "accidentally" bumping into you with a glance and a smile or maneuvering to stand close to you at a club or at work, she’s inviting a response and trying to become more intimate with you. Closeness is intimacy for a woman, and the closer she allows herself to get to you, the more attracted she is to you.

7. She initiates conversation with you
 If she comes over to talk to you, she wants to know what you’re all about. She will seem really into your conversation, turning her body toward you, tilting her head up at you and listening to you intently. She'll convey her interest by asking you open-ended questions, attempt to determine if you are single, dig for personal information and catalog your interests so that she can mimic your likes and dislikes in order to bond with you.

8. She draws attention to her mouth and lips
A Woman's lips can be extremely seductive and there is a tremendous amount of flirtatious energy tied up in them. Some of the most effective signs she's flirting will have her applying lip gloss or running her finger across her lip.

9. She compliments you 

A woman who is flirting with you will tell you flat out that she thinks you are cute, compliment your clothes, hair or something that you mentioned in conversation. If you receive a compliment and she seems really into you, she's definitely hoping you will ask her out. If you are interested in her as well, don't forget to compliment her, otherwise she may think you are self-centered.

10. She touches you
A flirting woman will make an excuse to touch you, if only briefly. She might reach out and lightly touch your shoulder, forearm, hand or wrist during a conversation or put her hand on your knee while making a point. If she gives you any lingering touches and doesn’t immediately remove her hand, you know you've got a live one.

How to make a sexual fantasies call

Friends flirt without realizing it, and at times, all it takes is a tiny butterfly effect to change the flirty banter into something a lot more sexual.
The booty call should be made on the same day you plan on getting with her. The first option is to call right before you want to meet her. The second option is to call ahead of time to schedule the meeting for a later time.
To use the second option you need to have a good idea of what her usual schedule is like and the best time and way of reaching her, whether through cell or home line, so you don’t get the answer machine. However, it’s always best to use the first option, calling right before meeting.

But what is a booty call?
Most people get to enjoy the pleasures of lusty lovemaking when they get into a relationship.
But what about the others, the horny and lonely beings that still want sexual pleasure without the baggage of romance and relationships?
Well, that’s where the booty call enters the picture.
A booty call is a call you make to an acquaintance or a friend with the sole intention of having sex with them.
It’s a perfect arrangement between two mature adults who are sexually attracted to each other, but don’t want to share a romantic relationship with each other.
As long as you find the perfect friend with benefits and follow the rules, both of you could sexually exploit each other and still stay friends, without the risk of experiencing heartbreaks anytime soon.

How to find the booty call pal
If the idea of sleeping with a sexy someone with no strings attached excites you, well, all you need to do is find the right person, and subtly seduce them into desiring you sexually.
If you meet someone on a one night stand, it just makes things a lot easier if they want to keep in touch. But if you’re looking to get a friend interested in a booty call, you need to plan your way into their loins.
Firstly, you need to remember this. A booty call is an insult, at least in the realm of the society’s conscience. It is taboo, and no one you ask will ever jump with excitement like you just went down on one knee and proposed marriage. Always be subtle in your approach while hooking up a friends-with-benefits relationship.
Pick the person you’re sexually attracted to, and work your way into their pants, one step at a time. You need to warm them up, build the sexual tension, and finally make the infamous call.

Warming the booty call over phone
Is this a good friend of yours? Good friends and BFFs are usually best avoided for booty calls. If things don’t turn out right, you may end up losing a good friend over a few awesome but mindless minutes of sex.
Always approach someone you don’t spend too much time with, preferably an old crush from school, someone you meet at the gym, or a sexy someone you meet at a café now and then. And then, warm their booty up!

Tip: When you call, depending on when you call and when you want to meet her, ask if she is doing anything right now, tonight, or later on. If it’s the first call, talk for about 5 minutes before asking. If it’s not the first call, keep the talk under 3 minutes.

1. Get them interested. Cozy up with this friend of yours when you meet them or speak to them over the phone. It’s alright if they assume you’re trying to woo them, at least for the first couple of calls. After all, sending out subtle hints that you’re interested in them is the best way to pave the way for sexual encounters.


2 Talk about your sexless lovelife. Once you get closer and more flirty with each other, nag about how annoyed you are because you haven’t hooked up with anyone in such a long time.

3 Confess your booty wish. Over a call late at night, tell your friend how you’re looking for someone for a no-strings attached relationship. Go as far as asking your friend to hook you up with one of their friends. Laugh it off, but let the message stay in their mind that you want someone to have sex with.

4 Your last booty call. Confess about your last booty call and tell this friend how sexy it was. Make up a story if you have had no booty call experiences, and make sure the story has a happy ending.

5 Get your friend thinking. Find excuses to get your friend to think of you naked. Tell your friend you just walked out of the shower, or that you were just giving yourself a trim down there. As long as you get your friend to imagine you naked, it’ll be pretty hard for them to get your naked body out of their mind.

6 Play dirty games. This is the best way to build up the sexual tension that could lead to a sexy booty call. Ask each other dirty questions over text, and you’d be on the verge of becoming sex buddies in no time. [Read: sexy text message examples to start a sexy conversation]
These 7 steps are best used over the phone or while texting because it’s easier to pretend like you’re joking if your friend takes offence. Speaking dirty in person would be awkward and risky unless your friend is just as sexually desperate as you are.

Warming the booty call face-to-face
Once you’ve warmed your date up over the phone, the air would be crackling with sexual chemistry each time both of you meet. Use these tips to get those hormones raging all the more harder.
1 Touch a lot. When both of you are together, find every excuse to graze each other’s body parts often, be it while pointing at something, while crossing the street or while kissing each other goodbye.
2 Sexual flirting. Flirt in a very obvious manner and let your friend know you’re sexually interested in them. You don’t need to say anything about a booty call just yet. Just make your friend desire you sexually just as much as you desire them.

Make the booty call
There are two ways to make the booty call for the first time. You can use either ways as soon as you’re confident that there’s enough sexual tension in the air.
1 The booty call phone call. The first booty call takes a while to warm up to the idea. On one evening when you know your friend is idle, call them up and flirt with them a while. And at some point in the conversation, ask your friend what they think about the booty call. If you’ve made all the right moves, the call should lead straight to bed.

Tip: The next thing you should ask her is if you can come over to her place. For example, "Let me come over <right now/tonight/later on>"

2 The booty call date. This method is safer, because you can go with the signs and back off or push ahead based on the circumstances. Invite your friend over to your place to watch a movie together. And while watching the movie, make sure some parts of your bodies touch each other. Over the next two hours, the subtle grazing of arms or feet while sitting next to each other would excite both of you.
And somewhere along the way, cozy up closer and ask your friend what they think of the booty call. If the chemistry sizzles, both of you would be on top of each other within the next few seconds!

Set the ground rules after the first booty call
Don’t set ground rules before hooking up at least once unless both of you have shown interest in the booty call idea for a long time. Once you’ve had sex at least twice, it becomes easier to set the ground rules because both of you like the sex. If it’s a one off incident and your friend doesn’t want to do it again, perhaps they’re not in it for the sex.
It’s very easy for one of you to fall in love, so make it clear that if one of you starts to develop feelings for the other, it’s time to back away. Add any rules that you think both of you may need to ensure that this sexual relationship stays that way without any complications.

Avoid falling in love with each other
The irony of a sexy booty call is the big chance that one of you will fall in love with the other. So unless you want to experience a broken romance that’s built on sex, avoid falling in love. Avoid all things that could make the booty call feel like romance.
1 Jealousy. Don’t get jealous if your friend is booty calling someone else. If your friend starts to date someone else, walk away for good.
2 Don’t call each other. Call each other if there’s a good reason to call, but avoid calling each other to pass the time. If you’re having sex, both of you already share something very personal. Don’t bring intimacy into the picture or one of you will fall in love.
3 Don’t give gifts or lend ears. Stop behaving like both of you need to support each other or please each other every now and then. By doing that, you’d end up needing each other for support very soon.

The best friends for booty call
A booty call is easy to fantasize about, but it’s not at all easy to pull off. It works best with people who can differentiate sex from love and intimacy. So before you go picking your next booty call pal, make sure you pick the right friend. Here are a few good friends and acquaintances to use for a booty call.
1 The just-want-sex friend. This is the friend who is single, but isn’t interested in dating someone because they’ve got other commitments that need their attention.
2 The rebound friend. Has a friend recently broken up? Are they now looking for someone to get into a rebound relationship with? This friend would be perfect. But then again, don’t ever seduce someone who doesn’t want to be seduced or is looking for something serious. You’d end up feeling disgusted about yourself.
3 The sexual chemistry friend. Both of you share a lot of sexual chemistry and catch each other stealing glances all the time, but don’t want to date each other.
4 The ex-lover friend. Do you have an ex lover from several years ago, where the love has just sort of faded away into neverland? If both of you are single and want sexual intimacy without the risk of heartbreak, perhaps falling into each other’s bed is the perfect way to fill the empty sexual space in each other’s lives. But remember, this is delicate and tricky ground. Don’t fall back in love!
A booty call is a secret
A booty call can be a reputation ruiner, so don’t go bragging about it to the world. If you want the fun and the games to continue for a long time, try to keep it a secret from everyone in the world, including your closest friends.
Respect each other, and give each other the space to be with other people. This is a no-questions-asked relationship, and both of you have no right to talk about the other person with anyone else.
Walk out when the booty call hurts
There are four ways a booty call can end. And trust me, it will end. One of you could fall in love with the other person. Both of you could fall in love with each other. The booty call could start to get boring for one of you. And finally, you could get hurt because you can’t separate the sex from emotions, be it jealousy, anger or hate.
If it ends smoothly one fine day, that’s good for both of you. Just avoid getting attached to this person and everything would go just perfectly. If your booty call pal starts avoiding you or starts making excuses to avoid meeting you, get the hint and brace yourself for the end of the affair. Learn to accept rejection gracefully, because there is no happy way to end this kind of a relationship anyway.
Look for someone else to booty call with, but just don’t go begging your old booty pal to take you back into bed. Really, you’re not in love here, are you?

Common excuses you might encounter:
* She is tired -- this excuse borders between one she can get around and one she can’t. You’ll have to play this one by ear and listen to her tone of voice. If she doesn’t sound tired, it’s a safe bet to pressure her a bit more with the, "I just want to see you for a little bit" line.
* She is going out that night -- tell her you’ll come by after she gets back, even if she won’t be back until late at night. After all, that’s how the booty call got its reputation.
* She has to do some work (whether for school or her job) -- say something similar to what you would if she says she’s going out, say you’ll come by right after she’s finished.
* She simply says she’s busy or has to do something -- ask her what she has to do, if it’s an excuse she can get around, just say you’ll come by after she’s finished with whatever she’s doing or has to do.
If she keeps giving excuses for why she doesn’t want to meet, then she probably isn’t interested in you and/or she doesn’t feel like having sex at the moment.
Keep in mind that some women are reluctant to saying yes right away, especially if it’s the first booty call, but if you work for it just a little, they usually cave in to their desires.
Once a woman has experienced the relaxation that comes from no strings attached sex after building up the tension throughout the day, she’ll be constantly craving sex without emotional baggage or pre-sex courting and her booty will definitely be giving you calls when it’s ’in need’.

Should you have a booty call?
Let’s face it, booty calls aren’t for everyone. It’s extremely hard to separate love from sex, especially when they both feel the same at the start of a relationship. Sometimes, lust could overpower you and cloud your judgment which could eventually hurt you.
So if you want to take a plunge into booty call land, go for it. It’s an experience worth having if you’re looking for casual sex. But if you think you’d fall in love or suffer from jealousy, walk away because a booty call isn’t for you!

Remember: Once a woman has experienced the relaxation that comes from no strings attached sex after building up the tension throughout the day, she’ll be constantly craving sex without emotional baggage or pre-sex courting and her booty will definitely be giving you calls when it’s ’in need’.

Sexy text messages to start a sexy conversation

Firstly, if you want to seduce a sexy friend or a new lover, or want to start talking dirty for the first time through text messages, you need to read these features.

And once you’ve mastered the art of sending sexy texts, read on. Sending a sexy text to a sexy someone should come naturally. You can say anything you feel like, and as long as you feel horny, chances are, you’ll say all the right things.

Things to know before texting sex
You can always text a naughty line like “I want you now… come on and f**k me!” It works and sends the message straight through. But it comes with a major flaw.
When you make a sexy text sound too explicit or say a sexy line without hiding any meaning, your text loses its sensual appeal. It’s too direct and as exciting as it seems, it’s still boring because you leave nothing to surprise. Your partner may read it, smile and just play along with your mood.
Let’s face it, shocking sexual sentences don’t always work. They’re fun, but they cut the suspense and go straight to the end. And in a realistic world, how many times can you ask your lover to leave everything and *come and get you*!
If you want to enjoy a sexy text conversation, you need to involve your partner. You need to excite them slowly and you need to make them feel like they’re a part of the sexual buildup.
And the best way to start a sexy text conversation is by starting slow and easy, and playing with the sentences to turn the person on one step at a time.

18 sexy messages to start a sexy conversation

Keep your sexy text messages naughty and mysterious. It makes the exchange of texts more exciting because your partner wouldn’t know what’s on your mind.
Instead, they’ll feel like they’re the one that’s building up the sexual texts by asking the right questions, when in fact, you’ll be the one who actually starts the whole sexy game by saying the perfect first line!
Are you ready to get naughty while texting sexy? Just use these subtle and sexy conversation starters while texting and go with the flow. And remember to think sexy and talk sexy.
1 I can’t believe I texted you while I was peeing.
2 I’m feeling so cold even though I’m under the blanket. Hold on for a minute, lemme put on my clothes.
3 I just had the dirtiest thought about you ever...too dirty to text...wow...I'll tell about it later!
4 I wish you were here right now...I'm too dam horny!
5 What are you wearing right now?
6 Can you guess the color of my underwear?
7 My legs are missing you in between them.
8 I just bought new underwear and can’t wait to show it to you.
9 If I were with you right now, where would you want me to touch you?
10 I’m watching porn.
11 My hands were busy, but they took a break to text you.
12 I’m imagining you’re with me right now…
13 I’m trying to sleep, but I can’t stop thinking about all the things you could do to me if you were with me right now.
14 I’m looking for sex toys online…
15 I had a naughty dream last night and you were in me… I mean, it…
16 What would you say if I suggested some sex in public?
17 I can see two pussies humping outside my window. They’re meowing so much it’s hard for me to go back to sleep.
18 Wanna play a game with me?

Once you use any of these lines as your sext text conversation starter, it’ll automatically get your lover’s mind racing into sexual overdrive.
All you need to do after that is play along and answer the questions keeping sex in mind. And before you know it, both of you would be all hot and bothered.

Notice how some of these messages are very dirty and explicit while others are quite tame? Use these naughty and sexy text messages the next time you want to initiate a text sex conversation. 

Want to seduce a girl with words?

Just use these questions and keep the conversation going by answering any other questions she may ask. And the best part, it’ll work wonders if she’s your girlfriend or even if she’s a flirty girl you have a crush on. Ask her these questions late at night for best results!
1. Are you alone? This question is perfect to understand if she’s idle and all alone at home. You obviously can’t flirt or talk sex if her friends are around her. Say something bold like “I wish I could be there with you” when she reciprocates with an affirmative.
2. What are you doing right now? Play it nice and slow. This can help you be certain that she’s alone and bored enough to give you her complete attention.
3. Do you like cuddling when you lie in bed? Warm her up to a flirty conversation without overstepping the line. This can help open her up by talking about cuddling with someone else.
4. What do you wear when you go to bed? / What are you wearing? A curious question that’s perfect to ask a girl when she’s in bed already. It’s personal, and yet not too sexual. Say something like “Gosh, I can only imagine how cute you look right now” when she describes herself.
If it’s your girlfriend, ask her what’s she’s wearing and if she doesn’t mention her lingerie *which she may not without a bit of coaxing*, ask about her lingerie and also the color. A perfect start.
5. What do you think you look sexiest in? Get her to talk sexual by talking about her sexy clothing. It’s flattering and definitely sexual. 
6. Have you ever watched someone else make out accidentally or on purpose? This question gets both of you in the mood. And yet, by directing it at a third person, you can avoid any uncomfortable situation at the start.
7. Has a guy even touched you or discreetly groped you while clubbing or in a crowded place? Girls have a thing about sexual groping. Even if it’s accidental, it’s something they just don’t forget. You can answer something like “I wish I could have been that guy!” after she tells you about an incident.
8. Have you ever made out with a guy just because you were horny at that time? Find out if she’s a girl who can be coaxed into having sex with a guy in the heat of the moment.

9. What’s your secret move to turn a guy on? By asking her to visualize making out with a guy and describe it to you, you’re making her fantasize about sex. And at the same time, she may go into details just to prove how good she is sexually.
10. If there’s one place a guy should touch you to make you horny, which is that? This goes straight to sex and arousal. And if she does answer this truthfully, in all probability, she’s already aroused.
11. If I kissed your lips accidentally while kissing goodbye, would you mind it? Make her imagine your kiss. It’s a perfect question to get her to pucker up.
12. Do you like giving an oral or getting one? No matter what she answers, you can always answer with the opposite of what she says. If she likes giving an oral, say you like getting it. If she likes getting it, tell her you love giving it!
13. How do you think my body would look better, shaved or natural? Isn’t it a nice thought to know that the girl you like is picturing you naked the minute you ask her this question?
14. If you didn’t have a boyfriend, do you think we would have made out with each other? / If I were with you right now, do you think we would have kissed each other? This question can actually get you into her bed, but you need to wait for the last question to get an invitation from her.
15. If a guy wants to come over to your place and make out with you right now, would you like that? Don’t talk about yourself just yet, unless you already know she wants you to come over. If she answers “yes”, go full speed ahead to her place. Otherwise, play the seduction game for a few more minutes before telling her you want to come to her place right that instant.
  
Just use these 15 dirty questions to ask a girl and you definitely would make her wet. And if you’re charming and lucky, you could also get into her bed!

By Gerry Sanders

 

Supermarket

Situation 1: Supermarket

Description: You’re at any grocery store, and you see a petite gal feeling up the chicken breasts in the frozen foods.

Goals: Phone number and/or email. (Your chances of getting laid from a trip to the Safeway are pretty slim, cowboy. Set your sights accordingly.)

Opportunities: Women take a lot of thought with their grocery shopping, so you have many opportunities to engage in conversation about something they’re looking at. They really ponder their choices. And, you can take as long as you want to shop and flirt because there are new people coming and going every minute. Take a little while to do a little product research while you’re there.

Dangers: You should be shopping with at least a basket or shopping cart. If you’ve only come in to grab a bottle of wine and leave, you may have to be more forward, because you won’t look as
natural as the other shoppers. Another danger is that not many people take a relaxed and luxurious trip to the grocery. They usually want to shop their list as quick as they can, get rung up, and leave. You have to find a way into her attention zone.

Approach:There are many ways you can get yourself introduced. One of the best ways is also one of the slyest, and I’ll bet most people have never even thought of it: Put something you’re buying into her cart – by ‘accident.’ Then simply point out your error when you want to talk.

• "Oh, wow, I’m just so overwhelmed with the choices for split-pea soup that I just helped you buy some, too. You don’t have to thank me. I do this for all the shoppers."
• Or, "Whoops. I was about to put something healthy in your basket by mistake, but it looks like you might need it for real. Are you really going to eat that junk? Come with me, girl. We’re going to
  the fresh food section."

Another approach is to run into her with your cart. (Hey, I never said you had to be sophisticated.) You just accidentally have a head-on collision with her cart. The trick of this maneuver is that you make it appear as if it were her fault.

• "Whoah! Ma’am, I’m going to have to ask to see your license and proof of insurance. I think I’ve got whiplash."
• Or, "Hey, are you the one that always runs into my car in the parking lot, too? I’ve finally caught you!"

You should definitely make it a point to shop around the wine section for a while. There is a lot of  conversational opportunity here, and women love wine. Let the chumps shop for beer, you’re here for the ladies.

• “Excuse me, do you know if you’re supposed to have white whine with chicken?” And she’ll say, yes. You ask: “What about with Cheerios?”
• Or, “Do you know what the difference is between a Syrah and a Merlot?” She’ll try to explain, but it’s always too subtle to understand. “Oh, I see. So you must be one of those people who stomps grapes in her basement, huh?”

Details: If you’re still in your work attire (a tie and suit), relax it a little. Look like you’re a snappy dresser, but feel free to get rid of the tie and put it in a pocket. If you’re dressed in your best camouflage pants and Oakland Raiders jersey … smack yourself up the back of the head and go get dressed. Your rule number one is to always go out dressed to meet the next gal you’re going to bring home. You don’t have to put
on a tuxedo, but for gosh sakes, make sure whatever you’re wearing is appropriate to the situation.

For a grocery store or supermarket, you can show up in a pair of jeans and a t-shirt, but you better make it all look stylish and neat. Wear a decent pair of shoes (not your ratty Converse hi-tops) and a belt. Make sure your shirt isn’t wrinkled, and your jeans don’t look like they’ve been chewed up in the gears of your mountain bike.

by Carlos Xuma

LEARN HOW TO SAY “NO” AND MEAN IT!

How can you confidently respond when someone makes a request you’d prefer not to accommodate?
This article shares some ideas you can use to make sure you don’t find yourself doing something you’d very much prefer not to do.
The question has just been posed. Pause.
Was your inclination to say yes, even though there’s a voice deep down saying “no.”
Well, let’s raise the volume on that voice.

What possible reasons could there be for saying no?

• It’s beyond your means?
• It’s beyond your comfort level?
• You have no interest?

Identify all the reasons you have for saying “no.” Identify which stem from a lack of confidence, versus a sincere disinterest in fulfilling the request.
What would happen if you said yes? Perhaps:

• You would be considered a teamplayer
• It would make your boss happy
• Your visibility with higher-ups would be improved

It’s comes down to a simple cost/benefit really.
Would the discomfort involved in saying yes outweigh the benefits of possibly going along with the request?
Or, do the benefits outweigh your temporary discomforts? The role of guilt Saying “no” is hard for many of us. Guilt often comes into play. Whether this guilt has its foundation in religion, a proper upbringing, or a
worldview that simply says “it’s not nice to say no”, we often recognise it and make decisions we’d rather not be making, based upon it.
Saying “NO”
You’ve made the decision, after scientifically weighing the results of your cost/benefit analysis, do honestly say “NO”. Well, go ahead and say it clearly, and self-assuredly...in the mirror. Look yourself in the eye, and do it. Just say “NO.” Say it like you really mean it, and then say it again as you would to whomever made the request of you. When you pretend you’re speaking to the person who made the request, does it come out differently? Practice and experiment with different ways to say “NO” until you find one you’re comfortable with. Then go, and say “NO.” After you say “NO” If you’re used to giving in to others, then guess what?
After all that practice, you may just be surprised to find that they are not willing to accept it!
They may push, rephrase the question, or make a new, not altogether different, request. Be prepared for this! Know your boundary—what ARE you willing to do?
Revisit the questions you asked yourself before—what would happen if you said no, or yes?
If you are serious about saying “NO” then stick to your guns.
Tell the individual making the request that you would appreciate it if they respected your wishes, and ask them to refrain from pursuing it further.
If you are comfortable expressing your “reasons why” then do so speaking from your personal perspective.

Saying NO exercise

Practice makes perfect as they say!
What I would like you to do for the next 7 days is to start to say NO more often.
So whether it is the double glazing salesman, the cold call, “Would you
like fries with that” or the shop assistant – practice saying NO to one
person for at least the next 7 days.
You will be an expert come the end of the week!

What will happen?

• You will feel much more confident and proud.
• You will find that practice makes perfect—the more you confidently say “NO” the easier it becomes.
• Others will respect your wishes and take you seriously the first time you say “NO.”
• You won’t find yourself doing things you never wanted to do in the first place.
• You’ll have more time to focus on the things you do want to be involved in.
• The list goes on from there…

by Sean McPheat

She Says Something Dumb or She is Rambling On

When you learn to listen and you get a feel what bantering is you are going to realize that women give you all the material you can possibly need to tease them. Here is the thing, once you establish yourself as a flirt… the woman treats you that way, she will unconsciously give you material to use.

What am I Going to Do With You?

The best way to deliver the lines below is to exaggerate how little sense she is making. This is a good time to be animated, and a slightly childish.

• Now are you just making shit up as you go along?
• It’s a good thing you’re pretty, because once the looks go you’ll be in trouble.
• Let's play a game. Let's see how long you can hold your breath.
• You're aware you're still talking right?
• I don't know what you’re on but i am sure they offer rehab for it Bartender, I think you need to cut her off.
• Now you’re starting to scare me.
• You are a total blonde fluff ball.

Remember, you don’t want to come across mean or insulting with these lines. You’re just trying to be playful and fun.

Top Wines To Drink On Winter Date Nights

When the chill in the air rises, wines are the drink of the evening. It is stylish to drink wine and follow the trends that change according to the season. When on a date, it is exciting to spend time with him/her and make it more enjoyable when you both share common interests. Add more body to your dating life with top pick wines to drink on your winter date.

Chardonny- the full bodied and crisp wines from Chablis with characteristics taste of fine grapes. This wine goes well with all white foods such as poultry and vegetables.

Gewurztraminer- is best prepared from grapes from France and Italy. This wine has an aroma of lychee and roses and goes well with spicy Asian food.

Pinot Bianco- is a rich green apple aroma wine from Italy. Goes very well with cheese dishes.

Riesling- is an ideal white grape wine for winters which goes well with roast turkey and ham. It is extremely smooth and leaves you with a glow of happiness.

Sparkling Wines- go well with all foods, be it in pastries or cheese loaded with hors d’oeuvres.

Dessert Wines- are ultra sweet so makes for a wonderful meal-ender in winters. Go extremely well with rich cheese or salty desserts. Austrian dessert wines are the best in the world.


As the nights get lengthy and the days become shorter, enjoy this heart warming liquid with your date on those cold winter nights in front of a fire or a cozy sofa.

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