avoid any awkward situations.
It’s easy to ask a woman out to see the latest Woody Allen movie if you know from flirting with her that she’s a big fan of the oddball director. What’s harder is asking a woman out on a date when you know nothing
about her interests.
This isn’t always possible if you happen to meet a woman and you don’t know if or when you’ll ever see her again. If this is the case, you have to muster up the courage to ask now and find out more about her later.
Have you always been afraid to approach beautiful women? They’re probably the ones most likely to go out with you. Why? Because most men feel the same way you do – that she probably has a million suitors
and no time for an average guy like you.
Guess what? She probably hasn’t been asked out in years! I can’t count how many girlfriends I’ve had complain that they never get asked out – and it’s always the pretty ones, never the plain Jane’s!
Beautiful women will be very impressed with you the minute you approach them because they’re not used to men having the courage you seem to possess. So what do you say once you get the nerve to ask her
out?
Try to use a business approach. Don’t blurt out loud that she’s the most beautiful woman you’ve ever seen in your life. This is kid-speak, and not likely to impress her. Is your line of business anything you can use to
your advantage?
For instance, if she’s sitting on the subway reading a non-fiction book on investing, and you’re a banker, hand her your card and smile when you introduce yourself and offer to assist her with her needs.
Whatever you do, don’t treat a beautiful woman like she’s the Scarecrow from Wizard of Oz. Even blonde bombshells have brains, and those women – more than others – will love it when you appeal to their
intellectual nature.
Before you’ve asked a woman out, whether it’s within the first few seconds or after a lifetime of flirting, you should have some idea in mind as to what you’d like to offer as your first date.
If you’ve known her for a little bit – even if only a few hours – then you should have had the opportunity to get to know something about her interests. Is she a homebody? Is she wild and adventurous? Does
romance appeal to her?
You can easily plan your date by answering these questions:
Why?
Think about your own motives. Do you want a quickie in the sack? If so, you probably can’t tell her that. So if this is your hope, you might want to just say, “…to get to know each other better.” That generalization
means that one thing could lead to another.
If, however, you want to test the relationship waters with this woman, you might want to be more specific – and more sensitive. Tell her that you enjoy her sense of humor or that you’d really enjoy spending time
with someone you seem to have good chemistry with.
Where?
Where to take a first date depends on whether or not the two of you are both in it for the same thing. If it’s very sexual right off the bat, then by all means, head to a hotel or your house and satisfy your urges.
But it’s likely that you two will need time to get to know each other before you make that giant leap, so a less sexual meeting place should be in the works. If it’s a first date, you might want to set her mind at ease
and make the setting very neutral – somewhere public.
This is especially true if you’re a stranger to her and the two of you don’t have any mutual friends. Pick a popular restaurant or park in a well-lit, safe neighborhood where she’ll feel more relaxed.
When?
First dates can take place anytime, so you might want to leave it up to her and what level of intimacy she feels more comfortable with. If she’s shy around men, then a daytime date might be just what the doctor ordered.
Try offering to take her to a theme park or water park for the day. These offer a lot of continual activities and it keeps the mood light so that the two of you can get to know each other better.
If it’s a nighttime date, make it early enough so that she feels safe going out, but late enough so that she doesn’t get the feeling you’re considering dumping her before the night is out so you can hit the town again if it doesn’t work out.
What?
Here are some more safe bets for first date dilemmas:
- Ice skating (she’ll be holding onto you and you can play the chivalrous male).
- Bowling (you get a great view and it’s a fun thing anyone can do).
- Pool (you can lean over her and teach her how to hold the stick).
- Comedy club (don’t sit in the front row or the comedian might pick on you).
Unless the two of you already know each other, always offer to let her meet you at the date. Not all women like to give out their home address to strange men they meet in bars.
All you have to say is, “Would you be more comfortable meeting me there, or could I pick you up at your place?” She might feel safer meeting you there, and it also gives the two of you an easy way to end the night if it doesn’t go as planned.
by Tiffany Taylor
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